So brilliant Sri!! This is hugely helpful and I’m so excited that you’re doing this series as someone who wants to read more but feel blocked as to what to choose as I’ve got very limited time….
It’s so hard! Give yourself grace. I’m hoping this will help parents identify books that feel like the right fit for their parenting styles so that they don’t waste time reading the wrong books (for them)!
I am currently starting to read this book again! I bought it few years back when my eldest was still a toddler and somehow drop off, also reading in kindle may have made it difficult. Now that my son is 5 and the youngest a toddler, I'm starting again because the need arises :) I also only have pockets of time to read it, maybe that's why it's difficult too for me to keep going. I think I will try writing down what I learn to consolidate. Great review!
Yes, the irony of reading parenting books is not lost on me: you need them in the same phase of life where you also have the least time / energy to make it happen 😂
I’ve learned so much from you and from books. It’s funny how much of my adulthood has been about reparenting myself…it’s comforting to know that I may that being doing this forever — the continual change and learning. And we’re doing it together 🤍
lol at feeling like maybe you got stuck at preteen because SAME! Are we absolutely sure my prefrontal is completely there?!? Also feel you on wishing new books wouldn’t have to invent cutesy new names for established concepts— I just got a handle on the other name for it!
Thanks for this series! You are on fire rn and I’m loving it!
This is one of my favorite parenting books but I need to go back and read it again because I've forgotten a lot of the details. I'm with you... this helped me reparent myself some and I think the best parenting books do. I learned a lot about the brain and how it works from The Whole-Brain Child.
So excited to have covered one of your favorite parenting books! So much about these books is just learning about ourselves and how we find our triggers and responses to chaos. I'd love to know what/if anything worked for you after you first read it!
Connect and redirect! Sometimes I forget my kids could benefit a lot from just being held in the moment. I can't recall the phrase the author used but another tactic we've had to use is remembering to make those neural connections. Specifically, there was an incident at school where my daughter's classroom toilet overflowed and she was scared of automatic toilets for probably two years after. I had to constantly remind her that it was scary but it was fixed and hasn't happened since.
That's wonderful! The telling stories strategy was very revelatory to me and I'm so glad to see there's evidence of its success. Also, you and this book have unlocked a new fear for me: the book also refers to an incident of an overflowing toilet so now I'm just waiting for my kid to be afraid of the toilet 😂
Lokokg forward to this series as well. Thank you for picking one book - that feels really manageable for me if I was interested in reading (did you too).
I am so excited for this series Sri! You know reading parenting books is a pastime of mine. I also get frustrated with the amount of re-naming established concepts into other things or acronyms. Many parenting books actually cover the same well-established concepts but name them all different things to package them as new or different. I am all for things that help parents remember something or make it accessible but sometimes it's just too much.
I had the idea for an "In real life" parenting book club for awhile, where we read a parenting book and then discuss the feasibility of actually implementing things in real life and experiment as a group.
Thank you, Kathryn! I've had an idea for that too (one of my friends is in a book club that does this and she's found it immensely helpful). Would love to work together on that!
This sounds like a brilliant series, really looking forward to reading more.
Thank you, Alexandra!
So brilliant Sri!! This is hugely helpful and I’m so excited that you’re doing this series as someone who wants to read more but feel blocked as to what to choose as I’ve got very limited time….
It’s so hard! Give yourself grace. I’m hoping this will help parents identify books that feel like the right fit for their parenting styles so that they don’t waste time reading the wrong books (for them)!
I am currently starting to read this book again! I bought it few years back when my eldest was still a toddler and somehow drop off, also reading in kindle may have made it difficult. Now that my son is 5 and the youngest a toddler, I'm starting again because the need arises :) I also only have pockets of time to read it, maybe that's why it's difficult too for me to keep going. I think I will try writing down what I learn to consolidate. Great review!
Yes, the irony of reading parenting books is not lost on me: you need them in the same phase of life where you also have the least time / energy to make it happen 😂
I’ve learned so much from you and from books. It’s funny how much of my adulthood has been about reparenting myself…it’s comforting to know that I may that being doing this forever — the continual change and learning. And we’re doing it together 🤍
YES. It’s an ongoing process! Love your beautiful comment.
lol at feeling like maybe you got stuck at preteen because SAME! Are we absolutely sure my prefrontal is completely there?!? Also feel you on wishing new books wouldn’t have to invent cutesy new names for established concepts— I just got a handle on the other name for it!
Thanks for this series! You are on fire rn and I’m loving it!
I have family and friends that will validate my brain is a teenager at best 😂
Thank you so much for your support, Alexis! It means the world to me.
This is one of my favorite parenting books but I need to go back and read it again because I've forgotten a lot of the details. I'm with you... this helped me reparent myself some and I think the best parenting books do. I learned a lot about the brain and how it works from The Whole-Brain Child.
So excited to have covered one of your favorite parenting books! So much about these books is just learning about ourselves and how we find our triggers and responses to chaos. I'd love to know what/if anything worked for you after you first read it!
Connect and redirect! Sometimes I forget my kids could benefit a lot from just being held in the moment. I can't recall the phrase the author used but another tactic we've had to use is remembering to make those neural connections. Specifically, there was an incident at school where my daughter's classroom toilet overflowed and she was scared of automatic toilets for probably two years after. I had to constantly remind her that it was scary but it was fixed and hasn't happened since.
That's wonderful! The telling stories strategy was very revelatory to me and I'm so glad to see there's evidence of its success. Also, you and this book have unlocked a new fear for me: the book also refers to an incident of an overflowing toilet so now I'm just waiting for my kid to be afraid of the toilet 😂
Lokokg forward to this series as well. Thank you for picking one book - that feels really manageable for me if I was interested in reading (did you too).
Thank you, Marc! I hope you'll let me know your thoughts if you decide to read it!
I am so excited for this series Sri! You know reading parenting books is a pastime of mine. I also get frustrated with the amount of re-naming established concepts into other things or acronyms. Many parenting books actually cover the same well-established concepts but name them all different things to package them as new or different. I am all for things that help parents remember something or make it accessible but sometimes it's just too much.
I had the idea for an "In real life" parenting book club for awhile, where we read a parenting book and then discuss the feasibility of actually implementing things in real life and experiment as a group.
Thank you, Kathryn! I've had an idea for that too (one of my friends is in a book club that does this and she's found it immensely helpful). Would love to work together on that!
I think we definitely should!